No men or women over the age of 50 would argue on a point that their sex life is just the same as it was when they were just 20. Maybe it is better. But either way, it is just bound to be different.
Just as everyone’s body changes with the growing age, so does sexuality. This kind of physical transformation basically includes declining hormonal levels for both men and women and also changes in neurology and circulation. These kinds of shifts often lead to a different variety of sexual problems like erectile dysfunction or vaginal dryness. A wide range of medical treatments is now available to address these as well as other conditions.
Physical appearances also change with age and sometimes bring a decline in self-confidence in the sexual arena. Almost everyone experiences some kind of change. But these don’t spell the end of a sex life for most of the older people. Both physical as well as emotional issues can interfere with good sex life.
What can you do?
Some of the self-help techniques as well as counseling can bring relief to people’s relationship problems. If you shift your focus away from your perceived flaws to your attributes, then you can boost your self-esteem and can also establish your own standards for attractiveness.
Just think back on what it was that made you so attractive when you were young. Was it your soulful brown eyes, your cute smile, or maybe your killer laugh? Chances are that those qualities of yours are still as appealing as ever. Also, you may try to direct your attention to the experience of giving as well as receiving pleasure during the sex. This will eventually help you to search for the confidence in order to give yourself over to the experience. Any great kind of sex is often the outgrowth of a deep emotional connection, something which is not guaranteed by having a perfect body. A negative kind of self-image is not always rooted in your appearance.
Some of the career setbacks or any other kind of disappointments can lead you to feelings of failure as well as depression, both of which sap desires. For the men, some episodes of impotence can also undercut confidence in their manhood.
It does not matter what it’s the cause but a poor self-image can take away a toll on anybody’s sex life.